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Originally posted by reverie
The problem with that is that fifty girls will think that ABC is their best fit, either because it really is or they think that sorority is the most popular. Then XYZ will have five girls, who although they are probably amazing women, would be unable to help them keep up with fees, dues and a house, solely because of numbers. (On my campus, you loose your house if you can't fill it and I'm sure it's like that on others.) I think the mutual selection process as it is now is definitely the best method. People tend to forget that it's not just the sororities picking girls, but the pnm who write down their top choices as well.
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I second this opinion. I think that recruitment should be mutual decision between a GLO and a PNM. There are additional reasons for organizations having a say in who joins. Consider a woman who wants to join for the wrong reasons. What if she believes a book like this and thinks that greek life is one huge party and she will be among the most popular partiers. You gain a member who may not maintain her financial obligations or grades, who may not attend mandatory events, who may not show up for community service events, who may not attend sisterhood retreats, all because she was looking for was a group to party with. Believe me it happens. Also you may get girls that seem great but just don't want to put in the effort it takes to be in a GLO or they just wanted something to put on their resumes. These things happen, this is why we need mutual selection. Girls should have a choice in where they end up, but so should the GLO. We don't want girls that will not be contributing members.
Selectivity is not a bad thing. Sometimes it makes people realize something about themselves and that maybe they are bettersuited for a different GLO. This happened to my best friend. She went out with an open mind and recieved a bid from from 3 groups not on her list and she didn't get her top 3. She chose one bid and she says now that she wouldn't have it any other way. She got the house that was best suited for her before she knew it was the best house for her. Girls need to realize this, its not a popularity contest, this is for life and you need to be with girls who you can call your sisters, your best friends. Sometimes PNM's don't always see who the best GLO is for them, mutual selection helps them to think about it more openly. Besides if they really want a specific group they can always come back the following semester. I think it speaks volumes for the girls that do come back after not receiving a bid. Just my 2 cents.