Here's another thought...A sorority might be a wonderful fit, but the sorority life might not be! I rushed as a freshman because I loved everything that I knew about sororities. I had wanted to be in one long before I went to college! I loved the idea of late nights with wonderful friends, super-tight friendships that last forever, community service, sharing secrets, wearing pretty sweatshirts (I know it sounds silly), seeing sisters everywhere you go, being part of something with a long, traditional history, etc. However, as I came to understand the "Greek climate" on my campus and as I went through rush, I started getting this queasy feeling in my stomach. On paper, I loved every sorority! But, in the real-life situation of my campus, I knew I fit better into other aspects of campus life than I did into Greek Life. The sororities must have seen it too because I was cut from all but one (out of four chapters). I declined my bid because by that time I began to see that the organizations that I was already involved with (we had deferred rush) were meeting many of the expectations that I had of a sorority (except for the pretty sweatshirt part
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Fortunately, I found Beta Sigma Phi, so I could have everything that I wanted from a sorority without having to go against who I was as a college student.
I agree with "Q" that personality has a lot to do with the "fit," and personal needs come into play as well. I have been involved with Martial Arts for ten years. I love everything about training, but a lot of people see the bowing and yelling and saying "sir" or "ma'am" as weird and even cultish. While I love the discipline and intense workouts, other people see these aspects of training to be excessive or strange. It's all about what you need and what you like.
Erica