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Old 07-14-2004, 02:09 PM
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Originally posted by aephi alum
Interesting topic.

I could have dealt with abstaining for a week or two before the wedding, so you get some of the "newness" on your wedding night, but no longer than that. I respect those who choose to become celibate after having had sex, as well as those who actually do remain virgins until their wedding night. It just wasn't for me. I believe it is possible to have a healthy, loving relationship that includes sex, even if you are not married.

Back when I was planning my wedding, I lurked on alt.wedding, and this topic came up. Responses ranged from "we're abstaining for a few months" to "no sex the week before the wedding" to "abstention - hah!" The story that sticks out most in my mind was that of a couple who had gone to the Catholic church they belonged to, to sign up for Pre-Cana. They filled out the registration form and put down the same address, since they were living together. Their pastor then told them that if they wanted to get married at his church, not only did they have to stop having sex, one of them had to move out until the wedding. It wasn't enough for them to continue to live together and promise not to have sex - one of them had to physically move out. So they had to scramble to find an apartment that they could rent for 6 months, and cough up rent on the second place rather than saving that money for their wedding/honeymoon/first house.
why does this story stick out to you..did you find it hard to believe that the pastor didn't support them shacking up?? just curious.
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