One thing that has been stressed over and over and over again in this forum is that the Bond may not exist for all people.
--Some sorors have had bad enough experiences that they don't hold Omega Psi Phi and its members in high esteem at all.
--Some sorors are so dead set on blocking out the HISTORICAL Omega-Delta relationship, that they refuse to acknowledge the Bond because there is no official, constitutional relationship between the orgs.
--Some sorors haven't seen a bruh on their campus in so long (if at all), that they probably wouldn't know what to do or how to act if they did!
--Likewise, some bruhs may have been shunned, dissed, and put down by sorors (namely those I've previously described) so much that they no longer care to uphold the Bond, and would rather gravitate towards AKAs or Q-Pearls.
Quest and Melody, I am sorry that your experiences have been negative ones, but I urge you to not judge the whole by the few. I too have been groped, licked, and even bitten, but those kinds of experiences are SO RARE for me, that I refuse to be anything less than excited when I see/meet an OMEGA MAN who does NOT disrespect the Black Woman, and especially not a DiSTinguished Delta Woman. He is the Omega Man who would quickly apologize for the actions of his fellow Dawg in a most sincere and gentlemanly fashion. He is the Omega Man to whom I will ALWAYS show and give COLEMAN LOVE because he is the one who deserves it.
Sometimes bruhs might want to use the Bond for the wrong reasons, but shamefully I admit that I am guilty of that, too. 'Cuz let me tell ya-- if I get anywhere close to Shaquille O'Neal, I will milk the Coleman Love thing dry just to get a hug from him! It has its advantages!
But on a serious note-- you don't have to do a cartwheel when you see a Brother of Omega Psi Phi. You aren't obligated to feel the Bond or give the love. But, try to keep an open mind if you can, and "judge not lest ye be judged." Some of our sorors aren't the friendliest most respectful at times, and while they may not be feeling the bruhs up, if they're turning their noses up to ANYONE, or "belittling" an entire org because of a few bad grapes, they are just as guilty because they aren't living up to our virtues and Christian principles as Delta Women.
And I'm Out.
the411
P.S. OOP-ROO!
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Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc.
Pi Kappa, SP97
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[This message has been edited by the411 (edited June 04, 2001).]
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