much respect...
Ahhh...just the thread that i was looking for...
*let me preface my question by offering a story*
Does everyone remember
A Different World?
when A Different World first aired I was a sophomore in high school. And I loved it! So did my parents. We would watch it every thursday (reminiscing on when "black" television was informative and not a minstrel show). There were two episodes that now that I watch it every morning that I absolutely love! The first one was when Ron was pledging Kappa Lambda Nu (a fictional fraternity...for those that don't know)...and the second was when Kim was pledging Whitley's sorority Alpha Delta Rho (another fictional organization).
I remember watching the first episode about Ron with my mom...and watching the twinkle in her eyes as she "took a stroll down memory lane". It was also the episode that boosted me for my cotillion that was to happen in the spring with her sorority. She and I talked that evening about her experience on line back in the hmmmm...late 50's early 60's. Yes, she went through some sh*t...and she also experienced some great highs. But she never regreted the experience.
Later...I saw the episode when Kim was pledging and then and until this day I get pissed with her. So what she was a pre-med major and had two jobs...if "Big Sister Gorgeous One" (Whitley's name) told her to get up and get her breakfast at 5am then damn well she better do it! And you know what...I was pissed that she rallied the other line members to her side. AND SHE STILL GOT IN! Nah! I was angered because Kim did not know nor did not consider the value of what she was learning. Sisterhood above all else. Unity and devotion to the "history of Alpha Delta Rho"...you feel me? I had more respect for Ron and how he showed that Brotherhood was all for one and one for all. There is no time for "I" in brotherhood.
I am saying all this because i'm sure by now that Doggystyle82 is shocked that for once I agree.
Although I am not a greek...and I do bereave those who were killed and am saddened by those who were maimed by hazing. I must also say that those are exceptions to the rule. And if you look at the cases for the most part these incidences happened...
after MIP.
My question is...
It is understood that Old Skool Greeks are not as "accepting" of those who are "made" by the MIP. But it is also understood that anyone who pledges now will, for the most part, be "made" through that process...and therefore they are technically victims of it and not always willing participants.
If you could restructure the pledging process by incorporating aspects of the MIP and the "old skool" way of pledging what would it be?
AND
Why has this not been done?
AND
What does one do with a member who is a "mad hazer" who consistently abuses and misuses their power?
*just a personal spin before i end*
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Its about marching on the yard, greeting big bruhs in public, serenading the Deltas, being dressed alike, social silence, the Lamp Stare, the Dog Grit, not walking on grass, always running, never seen walking or eating in public, the unbreakable chain, six men living, sleeping, and eating together, never separated for six weeks, crossing "real" sands together, a sense of accomplishment and rightful entitlement.
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these things are the things that i was told by my mom (of course in sorority form) and other friends that made them desire and pursue their respective organizations more. when i toured HBCU's as a 13-15 year old i remember seeing folx on line. And thinking damn...that is tight!
While I do not agree with being physically emotionally abused...I do believe that certain forms of the old skool way are some things that bind men and women together.
As I end this I will just say that I have in the past been ridiculed for thinking this way. Those who ridicule me say..."you don't know what it was like! it was horrible! and you don't respect yourself if you will let someone make you do something!" You can find these statements in many places on the net...if you voice the opinion (non-greek and greek alike) that there is some validity to the old skool way of pledging.
I just want to know how can there be a happy medium?
Peace