I think we'd all be better off in the relationship category if we STOP going into them with unrealistic expectations and negative preconceived notions and stereotypes, especially those based on other folks' experiences and not our own.
Also, we have to have ourselves in order before we can be a good/strong half of a whole. If I'm insecure, needy, lacking confidence, etc., then I am BOUND to infect my relationship with problems, UNLESS I take some time to/for/by myself to get myself together. Too often we turn to relationships as a means of therapy, healing, etc. We expect that our mate can make things better, or we think that, by being in a relationship with a certain person, our individual issues will somehow disappear or work themselves out. Relationships aren't cures for or solutions to our own individual problems or shortcomings. Relationships are, plain and simple, the answers to compatibility, trust, friendship, and LOVE.
Y'all feel me?
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