Since I didn't answer my own question...
(I wanted to let this thread run for a bit)
I have an interesting perspective on dating or marrying outside your religion. Long story short, I was raised Catholic in a very Jewish neighborhood, drifted away from Catholicism as a college student, studied other religions (both Christian and non), and ended up choosing Judaism.
As a Catholic / lapsed Catholic, I never had any problem dating non-Catholics - actually, most of the guys I dated weren't Catholic. When I was dating my husband, he told me he had no problem with marrying a non-Jew as long as the kids were raised Jewish. That was fine by me. But at the same time, I was also considering choosing Judaism for my own reasons (no pressure from Mr. aephi alum or his family at all), and wound up doing so before the wedding, which took care of the intermarriage question.
Nowadays, though, if I were to become divorced or widowed and I got remarried, I would have no problem marrying a non-Jew, as long as his beliefs meshed closely enough with my own (I think I would have problems with a devil worshipper
), and as long as any children he and I might have would be raised Jewish.