Well with all this uncertainty, and other problems...I got the book by Dr. Laura Schlessinger called Ten Stupid Things Women Do To Mess Up Their Lives.
I'm already half way through it and have realized so much. I think a lot of women feel lost without a man because deep down we've been taught to believe that happiness lies in what he can provide.
I'm goal oriented and motivated just as the next woman...but when I'm with a guy, I sometimes find myself making exceptions for not doing what I want or for just building my life around what he wants. I did that with my ex who wanted to move back to his small hometown. I wanted a career in the PR field but I told him I'd move because I loved him and that I could do something like freelance writing. I would have NEVER been happy, and I realize that now. I just didn't want to lose him so I made my world revolve around him.
WRONG way to go about it.
So if you have time, I recommend picking up the book and reading a few chapters. I don't have a boyfriend now, but it reaffirms my thoughts that I should focus on what I want and need rather than finding and catching a man to fulfill my wants.
Hootie
PS. YOU all are such great help. Thanks for the advice and for always listening.
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