Stan, I am not trying to rub salt into the wound, but welcome to the real world. What is the real World, well, it is the world where a Brother cares about His Fraternity, Its Beleifs and what it stands for.
Interal Fraternity Brother, you are in a situation that many of us have found ourselves in.
It is sad when it comes home.
I can only Hope that with You and a Few Brothers and Alums that Your Chapter can be rebuilt to stature.
Sounds like a decision needs to be made, get with your National, explain the problem, see if they will work with you. Have a Strong Active Few, and Have Alums Working with you. If not?
Stan, All I can say is The Very Best of Luck, many of us have been there and it is tough as Hell!
Go, Buddy, You Are The Man of The Hour!