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Originally posted by Betarulz!
I know I'm probably going to get reamed for this, people saying I should know better and what not, but I'm going to ask anyways. I've already asked one girl I went to UIFI with from purdue, but she hasn't gotten back to me so...
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Beta, I would have you advise your friend just to go through rush with the idea of getting to know the houses, and if she feels comfortable with joining one she should go ahead, and if she still feels apprehensive, she can always drop out. I know it sounds unlikely, but the reality is that at almost any school, you can tell as much as you need to know about a sorority from rush. Sororities that have a lot of trashy girls don't just pull out their cashmere and pearls and keep their legs shut for two weeks of rush.
I was worried about the same things that your friend was worried about when I rushed, but by the end of the first round I could tell more or less what was what -- and my opinion hasn't changed that much in the two years since I joined. I was pretty much dead on.
Also, I would be worried about taking advice from anybody on GC on what sororities are like what simply because there is no such thing as "unbiased" advice. What one person thinks of as the "dorky" sorority might be another person's conception of the sorority that is completely living up to their founders ideals, what somebody might thiink of as the hot sorority might be somebody else's "b*tchy sorority," one person's "fun" sorority might be another's "trashy" sorority. It would be unfortunate for your friend to write off a house that might be perfect for her just because of the rep that one person claims them to have.
Basically, what I'm saying is that every girl worries about the same thing your friend worries about, but 99 times out of a hundred, the rush process allows her to extract the information she needs. And on the off chance that she ends up joining a house that isn't for her, she'll realize it during her pledge period and can depledge and rush again the next year.