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NO CASH BAR. NO NO NO NO.
People should not be invited to a party (including a wedding and reception) and then asked to pay for what they consume. Heck, why limit it to the bar - why not have them pay for the meal too? There are a few less-offensive ways to limit costs and alcohol intake, including:
(1) having the reception at a place where you can bring your own bartender and making sure the bartender doesn't open unnecessary bottles and pick up half-finished drinks so that the guest has to get another drink that you later have to pay for
(2) limiting it to beer (no kegs, please) and wine, or simply having champagne (and sparkling cider for the nondrinkers) for toasting
(3) having the reception at a time of day when alcohol consumption isn't going to be as high, for instance at brunch time or "tea time" (which I think would be after lunch around 3 or 4ish)
(4) offering two punches - one with alcohol and one without
(5) eloping (or having a small family-only ceremony), then letting each set of parents throw a party for you of their choice
I agree with everyone who has told you to remember that it's your wedding and your day, and that you should have the ceremony and reception the way you want it. Of course, this may mean that you have to pay for it yourself.
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