It's your day. You need to do what will make the 2 of you happy...not everyone else. I absolutely agree with winneythepooh7.
If I can offer 1 suggestion, have more than one bridesmaid. My friend got married 2 weeksago and she had one brides maid. However, there was so much somplaining going on that my friend spent most of the night stressing because people kept bitching to her. As much as her maid of honour tried to help, she couldn't deal with it all. Your bridesmaids she be used as a buffer between you and disgruntled guests. You should have to deal with any of your guests isht!
ETA: I fixed it 