[twinstars]

Other people can do whatever, and I won't judge, but I don't think I'd feel comfortable living together without an engagement and a wedding date set. I don't want to be doing things I'd willingly do as a wife (such as, picking up after some guy, doing his laundry, household stuff, etc) if I don't even have an engagement ring and there's no guarantee the guy is even thinking along those lines. Because I know I wouldn't agree to live with someone unless I thought I might want to marry him, but I know guys don't necessarily think about it that way. And I don't like the thought of letting a guy "test drive" me for a year or two if he's not sure whether I'm the one.

Also, the thought of mingling finances with a guy I don't know I'll marry is kind of scary to me- I like my independence.