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Originally posted by greencup
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I've researched it, and I have formed my opinions.
Every single one I have met is loud, annoying, stuck up, judge by appearence, popularity contest, etc.
I have my opinion and you all have yours. Last year I was also invited to dinner with an old friend (who also changed very much). I could not believe how fake they were, and also the petty things they fought over.
I guess I just feel more independent (sp?) taking care of myself and forming friendships with people that I like.
I understand your opinions are different from mine, and that's just fine.
And as a side note, I volunteer at a soup kitchen and I can do charity and not be in a sorority. I also have my own connections with people all over the WORLD by talking/meeting people and traveling.
If those are reasons why being in a sorority is important, then it is not for me.
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I'm glad that you are a very independant woman. You have formed your opinion and are definitely entitled to it. You must understand, however, that you are making sweeping generalizations about people you don't really know. Before I was in a GLO, I volunteered as well. I got up at 4AM once a week to go serve breakfast to the homeless and needy -- it's a good thing, but it's not all that Greek Life is about.
It's one of those things that's very complicated. You don't really know until you try it and it's not for everyone. My mother was in a sorority, for example back in the 70's and dropped because she was having a poor experience. She said a lot of the same things you do. I know a lot of girls in sororities on my alma mater's campus who are very real people who would go out of their way to help others, do not engage in drama or superficial crap and are just generally great people. I'm positive that there are people like that in the greek system in Minnesota.
But no, no one would ever try to make the case that being in a fraternity/sorority is something that everyone should do or try. It's simply not something that works for everyone. I once thought as you did, but was given the opportunity to take part in the founding of a new chapter. I have been proven wrong and it's one of the few times that I was very glad that I was wrong.
It sounds like for the most part you're a smart, caring and generally good person. The only thing I'd recommend that you work on is your confronational style and you apparent tendancy to jump to conclusions about large groups of people based on a nonrepresentative sample of evidence. Some of the attitudes you're displaying here remind me of someone who thinks that because it was Arabs that flew planes into the twin towers that all Arabs are terrorists. Work on that.
And enjoy college, it sounds like you are enjoying yourself.. Just don't let the fact that others are enjoying themselves doing different things deter you.