I have an ex who I've stayed very close with. He actually got engaged about a week before me. His fiancee has never met be, but she has negative feelings towards me because she has never had an ex she stayed friends with. She doesn't understand it. They happen to be having a civil ceremony next Friday (to get her Green Card). I will be in town with my fiancee the weekend after and dad is having sort of a BBQ/engagement party for us. I emailed the ex to see if he would like to come and bring his new wife so maybe the air could be cleared. He said he'd love to but he'd have to run it by her and she how she felt. Once he said that, I had this strange revelation - I am also a soon to be bride. That day will be mine and his to share. I don't want a single unessecary worry. And I wouldn't want any other bride feeling that way (even if I hated her!
). So, what am I saying?!?! I don't think you should go. If you want to invite him to yours, go for it. But dont rain on this girl's special day.
Good luck - and if you do go, make sure to tell us about it!