All the Kappa ideas are great - but I have to think the TC's comment was referring to Oh Pat!-ing the bride at the wedding. Every Kappa wedding I have ever been to involves the Kappa sisters at the wedding Oh Pat-ing the bride. Usually we do it after the cake cutting (towards the end of the reception).
Oh course, as the bride there is nothing you can "do" about this one.. other than invite a lot of Kappa's I guess!
Of course, my grandmother-in-law is a Pi Phi, so she thought this was great - but she did have to inform my sisters she thought the PiPhis did it better
Best Wishes!
Paula