At the risk of redundancy, cosign
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Originally posted by Munchkin03
dzsaigirl, I'm so sorry to hear of your story.  I hope you've noticed that most of the posts railing against subsequent marriages are from women. I'm sure there's a guy out there who will realize your experience is a reason to keep you, that a woman who respects herself is a great gift.
AKA_Monet, your posts are always so insightful.  I think as people grow up and mature, they see that there is an awful lot of gray in this world.
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I'm a facilitator at a divorce recovery seminar, and I have heard stories that would peel the paint off your porch. It's interesting to see the couples who really do try to make things work - the ones who make it and those who don't.
I don't believe in the no-fault divorce, because that's like saying, "I'm tired of working on my marriage" or some other child-like tantrum. But when there's adultery, desertion, or abuse involved, the parties should be able to divorce without stigma (to the party not at fault).
Of course, I'm all for as much counseling as needed, and WAITING between marriages - statistically, anyone who divorces & remarries within two years has an 85% chance of having a second failure.
I would date men who have been divorced, but I'd need to know the circumstances first. My own brother has been married three times: the first time, his wife cheated on him while he was posted overseas in the service, the second time, she passed away, and now he's been married for 18 years (wow, that long?!).