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Originally posted by lauralaylin
Well, it is exactly what I thought it would be. As long as you marry someone good, and truly think about what you are doing with your head and not just your heart, marriage can be relatively easy and surprise-free. My husband and I have no major problems. I knew exactly the type of man he is, and I totally accepted that. I thought long and hard about getting married to him before I did. And I am extremely happy. Btw, I also married when I was 22, so I think the age thing should be taken on a case by case basis. Not all people in their 20s don't know who they are.
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The issue with youthful marriages people can change...
Now if folks can go with the flow and change together then, hey, it might work out...
But if 2 folks have problems with all of rapid fire changes that occur in a young person's life, then--who knows???
And if one is still "rapid fire" changing things around in their 30s and 40's lives--then it's like, LUSER... Get a job, a house & a car...
It is liken to me, deciding to give up my job and education to be a supermodel--a cross between an elephant and a rhino... HAYLE if I know...
I'm 30 something with a Master's and Ph.D. in molecular genetics. I am a scientist. I weigh too much and I am not tall and slender--how the HAYLE will I be a supermodel--for who? Or for what? Besides, that would not really not make me happy...
I think the issue is knowing yourself the most before wanting to include someone else in your life... If you can "give and take" a little... Some things MUST be compromised... And usually, as you grow older, you must change. I can tell you your body will change even if your mind does not... Everyone ages--even in their thinking...
Then it is all a matter of adjusting and fine tuning--fitting all the music together in symphonous sound rather than discord. And for some folks, life just stays in the tuning phase, rather than going into orchestra.
I am glad you have the kind of relationship you have always dreamed of. That your mate is meeting all of your expectations. Good for you! I hope you acheive all your dreams and wishes too. And you are definitely lucky to have met, married and be in love with someone in your youthful age.
Most folks are at best going to only going to have a mate or spouse... Never truly the one they love or soulmate... I am happy for you that you have a spouse that is the one you love as your soulmate...