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Originally posted by LB1914
Back in undergrad, I dated here and there but didn't have a huge deal of success. Anyway, now that I am older some of the same women from back then that either passed me over or dated me for a second and then broke it off for whatever reason are all in my grill now. Personally, my attitude is if I wasn't good enough for you back then, I don't see what is so great about me now.
Most of my female friends come with all kinds of excuses about the situation ("They were young back then", "They may have wanted something different back then and want a good man now", etc.). Aside from being a few years older, I haven't changed a great deal since undergrad. My appearance and overall personality are pretty much the same. Hell, I really don't even dress or carry myself any differently than I did back then. Nonetheless, I am supposed to just go along with this crap. I have even been accused of being "bitter" because of this philosophy.
What do you all think about the situation?
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In my opinion, I don't think you are bitter...You just simply moved on with your life. There are some women out there who once dismissed a guy, try to come back later and get mad when the dude doesn't want them. It kinda messes with their ego, but of course, it depends on the individual. People grow during college and they grow after college, but you should ask, "Why do I look appealing to you AFTER college? I'm still the same person." Let me cut the Dr. Ruth vibe here. Seriously, I've been there where male friends that I've been attracted to and approached in High school (for instance) and they see me now, want to holler. First, I give them that "are you stupid" look and give them the same exact answer they gave me then. That does not make me bitter. I feel it is more of letting them know that you are not accepting their advances and their indecisiveness(LOL)...plain and simple. When it comes to the human heart...don't half step. It's not like choosing what color socks to wear.
I hope you do find what you are looking for.
