what i have found in my chapter is that there are groups of girls that are very sisterly and there are groups that can be somewhat catty. i do everything in my power to associate the most with girls that are sisterly. i told some of the girls how much it upset me to hear them discussing our sisters behind their backs, and they have been pretty nice about trying not to do it in front of me. maybe you could talk to some of the girls (if its mostly being done by a few of the girls). otherwise, if they are being mean, leave the room. that will show that you dont want to hear it (but its important to always be nice about it so that you dont come off as holier-than-thou). This approach has worked well for me.
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