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Originally posted by msn4med1975
I do appreciate your concern in this situation but what we tell people when we do rape education is you can't force anyone to report the assault. The embarassment and shame is sometime overwhelming and the thought of speaking about that with anyone other than you guys won't help.
Just in case she needs to know:
A rape kit can be done UP TO 72 hours after the assault but if she doesn't press charges she may be liable for the expenses depending on the state.
Under most state statutes (most not all) ANY coersion or intoxication on her part can negate any consent he MIGHT HAVE THOUGHT he heard.
If she's showered at all the skin under her nails is probably gone so it really will come down to her bruises and the rape kit as well as her word.
Rape crisis counseling is FREE and CONFIDENTIAL especially if you are a college student. I worked in our counseling center as a counselor and (will be doing so for the next year as well) those are treated as emergency cases andwe will usually rush you in for services.
Continue to keep doing what you are doing, be supportive, let her talk about it as much or as little as she likes, and encourage but don't drag her to seek counseling. If you are all, Mike included, college students you may be able to file a complaint of misconduct against the other person that doesn't lead to legal sanctions but can impact anything from their financial aid to attendance at the school
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Thanks A LOT!!! The only college student involved is her, "Mike" is pushing 30 (she's 20). I will strongly suggest that she takes advantage of some counseling. One of my friends works with Sistercare (an agency similar to what you work with) and I'm going to try and get her involved. The thing right now is that she doesn't want to talk about it. I just wish there was more I could do. What I want to do is clock out and go clock him upside his head (with a blunt object). I am very protective of my friends and I just feel like I'm not doing enough.