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Originally posted by valkyrie
Seriously, that is an ignorant statement.
It's not that easy. It's not easy for a woman to leave when she is completely financially dependent on a man and has no resources of her own to fund leaving. It's not easy when he has cut her off from her friends and family -- her entire support network -- so she has no one to turn to for help, and believe me, this is very common in abusive relationships. It's not easy to leave when your self esteem has been worn down after years of being abused and told that you are crap and that nobody will believe you. It's not easy to leave when the police don't do crap to help you. It's not easy to leave when you try to leave and he finds you and beats you more than ever before, or when you know he'll be able to find you no matter where you go, and he's threatened to kill you if you ever do leave.
If you don't know jack about the dynamics of an abusive relationship, you'd be better off to educate yourself than make comments that indicate your lack of understanding.
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i completely agree. and even with friends there for you it's not the easiest thing to do. i watched and tried to help a friend through months of abuse from a guy she dated. and it was painful for me. i wanted nothing to do but help her. and finally she allowed us after he pushed her out a window. but this was months after it had started. so don't just say if you're in one leave. it's not easy to just get up and do that for most.