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Originally posted by Lady Pi Phi
It does if you don't want to share your ice cream 
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HA! i eat pumpkin ice cream, so normally no one
wants me to share, so i'm not used to it.....but i will if i must.
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Anyway, I understand what you're saying. But I also don't think there is such a thing as a completely selfless act. There are different degrees of selfishness.
If someone chooses not to have children because they either don't want them, don't have financial means to support them, etc. Does that make them selfish? (Not speaking about people who have abortions here, people who take mesures to ensure they don't have children like tubaligation, birthcontrol, vasectomy)
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i don't think that just b/c someone doesn't want a child makes them selfish. it's not the lack of desire for a child, it's what happens after/during the pregnancy that reveals that characteristic. if you get your tubes tied or a vasectomy or whatever, that's all fine and dandy.....ppl need to know their limits, whether their limit is none or 10. from what you mentioned about your cousin, it seems she hasn't realized her limits....but i have to respect the fact that she is having these children (b/c i can see her point of view....she prob feels more
blessed with 3 kids than burdened). i don't want to make a lot of assumptions on your cousin b/c i don't know all of her situation and how much these children are lacking in care.....and while i know that kids need more than love to survive, she does show them love by having them and (hopefully) caring for them as best as she can. a lot of ppl grow up in less than wealthy homes and are successful and accomplish great things.
i can see your point as well, though, b/c it does seem selfish to just have kids until your living in a van and all that. but if you're so pro-choice, isn't it her choice to have them as well as abort them? (trying DESPERATLY not to sound catty.....
promise.....i'm sure you're just trying to say what i was saying with the whole "selfish" thing.....and while we're on it, let's get a count of how many times the word "selfish" has been used in this thread!)