Divorce on a child is hard. I am a paralegal and i work in family law and seen some really bad situations involving kids. I also see how the little things also affect a child the most.

I was raised in a family where divorce is frowned upon but if it has to be it has to be. Staying together for the child it makes matters worse.

I recently am divorced and i have a 4 yr old child. I will say that his father as a husband is everything but a child of God ,but as a father he loves his child very much and his son looks up to him in a huge way so i am blessed with that but i also have seen how the pety bickering between his father and I have affected my son in so many ways and how he feels the tension and the insecure feelings in the way he presents to us. We we have both adopted the bygones be bygones attitude for him and we are better friends and get along so much better being divorced than we were ever married.

Recently, his father moved back to oklahoma and at 4 you think kids are not phased by things......this has left him feeling very insecure and is my shadow and very clingy.

Divorce may be ugly and cruel but to get away from the ill will and pettiness and ugliness of it i say do it before it hurts more for the child and all invovled.