I'm curious, if Pref. Letters are against NPC regulations, how do the chapters on this campus still get away with writing them? Is panhell just turning a "blind eye" because it's "tradition"?
If so I say copy the letter Jennie posted, I don't think the PNM's are going to
compare pref. letters.
Then with that letter it doesn't sound like a bid or to incredibly mushy and maybe some of the PNM's feelings won't get hurt (which is inevitable during FR anyways).
We were not allowed to give PNMs ANYTHING because it was considered to be a gift! The giving and receiving of gifts between PNMs and sisters is NOT allowed. Even poems we wrote them on pref night were taken back at the end of the party. Panhel was very strict about this and I think it was for a good reason, it evens the playing field and they see it as your way of trying to sway PNMs decisions.
Unfortunately FR varies from campus to campus. Yes, all campuses should probably be using the same "rules and quidelines" but some Panhell's are either going to be incredibly strict and enforcing all of them and others are going to be a bit more "lax" because of "tradition". Not every Panhell is the same and I think that is what the deal is. FR rules are meant to be very black and white but in fact they are incredibly gray and chapters, if need be, will find a way around them. I'm not saying that I condone this, but it is a fact of life (and not just with Greek life). People are human, with instincts, wants and needs and we find ways around the rules to benefit ourselves.
Agree with me, disagree with me, just please respect my opinion.