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Originally posted by cuaphi
Just for a different twist on this: my boyfriend grew up dirt (we're talking food stamps and government cheese) poor. His dad was a social worker and his mom was disabled and only worked intermittenly. He put himself through school on grants and student loans, worked his ass off and now makes a very good income. Meanwhile, I was a little bit of a spoiled brat. Suburbs, county clubs, didn't have to pay for my own cars, etc.
He's very, very smart, has a great work ethic and sense of financial responsibility and is pretty nice to boot. However, sometimes he shows more of a working class mentality and some blatant resentment towards those that didn't have to work as hard to get where they are.
So, how much do you guys think background plays a role in all of this? We all fundamently need the same values as our partner but do you think two people can arrive at the same point from extremely disparate starting points? Strangely, I think you can because we're doing okay so far.
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Interesting perspective cuaphi, and I think you have a good point. BACKGROUND AND VALUES play A HUGE PART in this. My ex-boyfriend came from a similar background and the way he acts now you would think he comes from money. He even has a mahor attitude towards the majority of society (even clients I work with who are disabled) that "the situation they are in is their fault". Part of the reason I couldn't be with him any longer was because he currently spends way beyond his means and constantly was complaining about "spoiled people who don't have to work to get where they are". That is only a small part of why we broke up but goes along with what you are saying. However, I also know people with similar backgrounds that had to work hard to get where they are as well and don't have resentment towards anyone or anything, and have accepted what life has handed them. I also know many blue collar guys who are as sweet as pie and I wouldn't mind dating, I was just throwing out a topic with my original post based on what one blue-collar guy stated to me. Bottom line you cannot control who you fall in love with. I think we can all agree we have probably dated enough people who were bad for us and became attached to them despite if they were blue collar or white collar. Oh, everyone except JAMES of course. He is immune to bad relationships
