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Originally posted by James
Do you guys think there is more pressure on women than men to be involved in a relationship? Why? And is that a good thing?
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I think it depends with who you are talking with. Parents for the most part I think want us all to be attached and living happily ever after. However, I think this is an unrealistic goal nowadays and hopefully we come from a family that is supportive of us whatever our decision is, or whatever our life circumstances are. I think both guys and women have pressure on them to settle down, for example, I've dated guys whose moms' are like "I can't wait to have grandchildren". And I've also heard my mom and my friends' mom's say "you know with the amount of guys you date that never would have been acceptable in my day". Ultimately though, I think WE (whether male or female) put the pressure on ourselves to be involved. I think that there is an innateness in us to want to be involved. However in our society, guys are brought up culturally to become less attached and less "emotional" about relationships. I still think that guys can get hurt though even if they don't "show it" or "talk about it" like us females do. I also think that a lot of us have a time frame in our head of when we should be in a certain stage and relationship. I have this conversation with my pledge mom all the time, who happens to be a doctor. What we talk about is not that we necessarily want to be in a relationship, but we WONDER why it is so difficult to meet "quality" men since we are two single professional women. I don't think being pressured to be in a relationship is ever a good thing because it is always going to blow up in the end.