As far as my personal experiences go, I am blessed to say that in my circle of sorors/sisterfriends greek and non greek...my girls have always had my back and have done nothing but encourage me. We are all making strides together. For the most part though prior to college aside from my best friend who I've known since I was 2 years old, I really did not keep female friends. I grew up one of two girls on my block and I have had nasty confrontations with women. In junior high school and high school, some girls hated me because they thought that I THOUGHT I was too good for them. The girls that liked me WERE stuck up so I guess that was no treat. In college, I went to an all women's college by the way, I made enemies over petty things, someone's man trying to talk to me, someone just following the crowd, "you don't like her, so I won't either"....people had "beef" with me because I wouldn't kiss butt. As a freshman I came in, did my own thing, formed my own crowd, mingled with everyone. I wouldn't choose sides, I wouldn't allow the upperclassman to mold me and tell me what to do. I didn't give in to peer pressure. I didn't pledge the sorority that everyone else did, just because it was the thing to do. Now that I am out of college since 96 and I am out in the business world. I still find women, (Mostly Black) to be nasty towards me. It always feels like we are in some sort of competition, or that people have problems with you, if you love yourself or are confident in your abilities. I am happy to say that I do have balance. I have healthy relationships with enough women to realize that there are those of us who will pull each other up. Those of us who are stepping on each other's toes, it's definitely due to a lack of self love. We hate on each other for everything from men, looks, skin color, and body size, not to mention status.
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