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Originally posted by NinjaPoodle
In relation to raising kids, we would (and still do) get into it about the hows and what’s of childrearing. My childhood background is such that I would consider it to be, not spoiled but advantaged. I did everything, Girl Scouts, clubs at school, annual trips to the family friend's orchard/ranch/farm in the wine country, summer camp, etc... I want my kid to experience the same thing if not more. He gets pissed off and says that's bourgeoisie.  Exposing your kids and yourself to the world is NOT BOURGEOISIE!
Our conversations always ended up being about social status, class structure and me defending why I am the way I am. Talk about politics? He couldn't tell you that Sacramento is the state capitol of Cali. WTF?. He got mad because I volunteered at the Democratic convention... 
He would give me grief about school related matters or sorority stuff. These are basic things, I can't imagine talking to him about serious issues.
He had a general attitude against black folks who were moving up and on to bigger and better things and just felt like I was the person to pick on (he seriously picked the wrong sister for that )
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If two people can put aside the minor differences and work it out, I say more power to them.
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You two sound JUST LIKE my folks. I think that's the number one reason why me and my dad cannot relate to each other at all. Eventhough he's "moved up" some, he taken his upbringing with him. I sure as hell don't want to repeat this with a guy, by dating/marrying "down" nor "up" (it will suck being the "down" one too). However, if he's adaptable to most environments, I won't mind dating a guy who had a more humble upbringing, as long as he is getting his education. I knew a few guys like that, and liked them. So, I guess it's more about attitude than literal upbringing, like someone said above.