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Originally posted by Shelacious
Depends, primarily on his internal drive. Although I would prefer a guy who had some college (so that he had some critical thinking experience), I think that his motivation and desire play a bigger role. I don't really mind that a guy is a postal carrier (which is what my dad is) with no degree as long as he is the most effecient carrier around, that he has other intellectual pursuits/interests, that he's passionate about the things in which he is involved, and that he has a real desire in helping me (us)achieve my (our) professional, educational and social goals.
If, however, the guy is just barely getting by, hates his job (and has no plans for anything else), doesn't like supporting me in my social (networking) activities, doesn't crack open a book, I wouldn't call that "marrying down"--I'd call that a guy incompatable with my interests and goals. I don't think that education and socio-economic background are the only indicators of whether he'd be a good fit in that area though.
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co-sign 100%! It really is about compatability. I can say that marrying people of different educational levels happened in the past as well. Several of my Mom's teacher-friends married men who worked in factories or industrial type jobs and had no education.
I think it also depends on the security of the people involved.
Is she trying to change him and make him into a corporate type (think Franklin's issue with Zora in Dissapearing Acts, although they had other issues as well.) Is she embarrassed of him? Is he jealous of her? Does he always try to show "who wears the pants"? Is he embarrassed/feel inferior because she makes more money?
BTW, a degree does not mean you make more money. I am in HR and my hubby is more technically inclined and while he attended college, he did not finish. He makes about $15k more than me, and probably will even after I get my masters. There was a time that I made more than him, and we were both fine with it.