Romance without finance is a nuisance...
Take a "unity bath" together... Make an aphrodisiac drink...
If all else fails, go to a romantical place--by yourself--like Jamaica where ALL the men are wondering what you are--it is an ego boost...
OR
Cheaply--find out where the "boys night out" is on a Friday and wear the hoochie mama outfit from Frederick's of Hollywood and see what his boys say... Then play on his "senses" all night long...
I dunno what it is, but Dolce & Gabanna perfum--the pure $100 perfum--is an aphrodisiac for men...
You all need to do something more with your lives, besides work and housewifeing... You need to help someone less fortunate than yourselves. Your panties would be all up in a bunch if you had something more to your lives than worrying 'bout how your partners ain't flowing the love your way...
Then it may have never been there in the first place...
Get involved. Be engaging... Move forward. Make a difference. If you man doesn't see that, he will never respect you for all the things you think he married you for...
OR
Maybe you all need a date night (or day or weekend) and you make a ritual out of it that you both share...
Your men ain't into you...