I think it is all relative to who you are speaking with as to what is appropriate regarding para. Like LBF said, and what store you supporting at the time. I remember when I got my first jacket, I was with my mother at the Greek store. While she was trying to get me to purchase the sweater...I WANTED THE SATIN baseball jacket
Boy, was I wrong. I should have gotten that sweater. NOW, I want one with EVERYTHING ON IT...lol Anywho, I didn't know what I wanted, how to arrange, it etc. So, the person at the store designed it for me. Having said that...
I don't remember any workshops saying that you are SUPPOSED to do this or do that or don't do this or don't do that. I don't remember OFFICIAL discussions regarding para.
I guess it all depends on where you are, who you are speaking to, etc. etc.
As with many things regarding our organizations they vary by chapter, region, cluster, state, person etc.