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Originally posted by GMUBunny
Okay, I know that so far I've been the happy bride-to-be... well here's where it all falls apart (and James goes "I told you so," but that's okay). I've come to realize lately just how important communication is in a relationship. JR will not talk about his problems, period. I have mounds of issues stemming from our past breakups that I've tried to resolve before we get married. What's his answer to everything? "Don't worry. It's all gonna be okay." I hate it when he says that. Using "it's all gonna be okay" is just a way of avoiding the issues at hand and having to deal with them. He just tells me I worry too much. I won't go into our particular issues, but if you knew what they were, you'd think I have every right to be concerned.
So anyway, yeah y'all are seeing a relationship fall apart right before your eyes... I still can't get the guts to confront him and call it off, even though I know it's what I need to do. But, I don't think that it's so much confronting him- it's confronting my family that'll be the hard part. Okay, end of my hijack....
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No, things will not just be okay. Marriage solves absolutely nothing. Not knocking it, but ultimately it will create more problems than it will solve. The fact that he's unwilling to deal w/ them now tells me that he knows the relationship isn't functioning but he doesn't want to admit it now.
Just remember this adage: Better a broken engagement than a broken marriage.
And good luck.