Oh, boy! I guess this situation is timeless! When I was on line, My boyfriend gave me a similar song and dance. The ironic thing about our situation was that he was a neo himself! What it really comes down to is this...If he loves you, he should respect and accept the aspects and decisions of your life that make you happy. I do not know what organization you are pledging, nor what their process is like, but don't let him get you 'caught up' in a bad situation of trying to manage the two during the process! That usually does not work. He should be proud of your accomplishment, and learn to compromise with what really makes you happy! That is more important. Out of respect for him, I would suggest that you let him know that your new sorors will be a permanent but postive addition to your life, but that will not make you love him any less.
Good Luck!
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