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Originally posted by tld221
maybe this is asking too much info, but i dont understand why an interest would need a rec from an alumna. what if said interest does not know one? and if they did, isnt it awkward to just blatantly ask for one? isnt that a bit rude? even if you warm up to the alumna, isnt she likely to be thinking, "well all she wants is my reccomendation?"
also, if said alumna is a relative, wouldnt there be a bias?
on a related note? are nieces/nephews and cousins considered legacies?
(im sure this had been covered b4, so perhaps i can be redirected?)
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First of all, I am not speaking for every sorority, nor every campus, as the rules can be extremely different from school to school. But, in general:
For many sororities, a rec is simply their way of saying, "Please extend this woman every courtesy." It is NOT a guarantee of any sort!! While this differs from school to school, NOT having at least one rec to every sorority on campus for some schools is virtually cutting yourself from just about all of them.
A legacy (for the most part) is a sister, daughter, or granddaughter of an alumna. Many chapters are now factoring step-relations into this equation. Nieces, nephews, and cousins are not technical legacies, but are usually accorded similar respect.
ETA: The above link is a list of alumnae who are willing to meet with Potential New Members, so that they can write a rec for them. That's just in case the PNM
doesn't know someone personally.