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Originally posted by bucutie02:
What about if I dont get a bid from my number one sorority, but do get one from a different one.
Should I accept that bid? Of course, if I didn't feel comfortable with them then of course I won't, but what if they were okay, just not my top choice? 
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bucutie02, there are a lot of women out there who got their #2 or #3 choice and are pleased as can be. I think the important thing is listen to your heart.
When you are attending the Recruitment functions with the sororities, that are your #2, #3, #4 choices at the time, ask yourself, "Would I be happy here? Or would I be wishing I was in QQQ sorority?" To be honest with you, when I went through Recruitment, there were 5/7 groups on campus that I felt I would have been happy in and could "see myself" in. Sometimes, the difference between choice #1 and choice #2 is vast, other times, there is only a very slight gap between choice #1 and choice #2.
People have said, "You'll know where you belong, it's something you feel", but to be honest, it has not been so clear cut for me.
That being said, when you fill out your bid card, only put down sororities that
you would want to belong to, or can see yourself being happy in. (I cannot stress this enough). This is because when you write down your sorority choices and sign your name to that Bid Card, that basically means that:
"I, bucutie, will accept an invitation to membership (if extended to me) by the above sororities".
If none of them bid you, then at least you are still eligible for COR (formerly known as COB).
Do NOT, I repeat, do NOT write down the name of a sorority on your bid card that you do NOT wish to affiliate it with. If they should bid you (which is always a possibility if you have written them down on your bid card) and you decline that bid, then you can't go Greek for an
entire year. This can be agony! Same with "intentional preference" (i.e. "suicide bid"), if you don't get a bid from that one sorority, you can't go Greek for an ENTIRE YEAR...so try not to do that either, if you can.
Another thing to consider is, sometimes girls pledge sororities and then up wishing in their heart of hearts that they were in one of the other ones on campus.
Hope that this helped you.