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Originally posted by AchtungBaby80
What's wrong with wanting a candle pass? I can see there being a problem if you're thought of as "uncool" if you don't ever get one, but just wanting one is the same as wanting, say, a new pair of shoes.
As for not having a date to functions...my sorority sisters never made me feel like a loser for not having one (and I went without quite often because I had a long-distance guy), but going somewhere is so much more fun when you have someone to dance the slow songs with. I like dancing with my friends, too, but I also like meeting people and being "forced" to find a date can help you meet a lot of people. 
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Totally agree with this post. I won't say I DIDN'T want a candle pass, but not for the ceremony...but because I wanted a boyfriend I loved and who loved me. I would have felt that way whether I was in a sorority or not.
Every single formal I went to had sisters who went solo or with another sister as their "date" - I think enough people had been through bad proms with dates who were jerks that they learned their lesson. I had sisters as dates, dates I was madly in love with, dates who were like brothers and dates who I met when they walked in the door. I still had a blast at every formal I went to because I was with the most fun people I know - my sisters.
My point is, if you're made to feel like a loser because you didn't have a candlepass or didn't have the perfect date from the right fraternity for your formal, that's a CHAPTER problem, and you should probably try to find less shallow sisters rather than blaming it on a harmless ceremony.