I took a class last semester that a part of it talked about issue between males and females.
I'm going to go with a YES on the inherently dysfuntional question. And my reason is.. men and women communicate in different ways and have different needs. (Different inherent needs) The reason men and women have issues is because of those different needs. Let me see if I can find this "cheat sheet" we got on the differences I mentioned. After reading it.. LOTS of things made a lot more sense to me.
Don't worry.. it is not just you!!!