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Originally posted by sororitygirl2
Lately, from all of my experiences and observations, I am beginning to wonder - is this the case? Or is it just that I am too young and the men I associate with have not matured enough to work through the issues that arise in a relationship? (Sorry to blame the men, but really...) It just seems to me that the women I know are willing to invest time and effort into relationships, whereas the men just seem more likely to bail.
Is the human race doomed? Somebody please offer some encouraging words... I'm awfully down about this right now!
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I totally understand where you're coming from. People our age (early 20s) are usually sort of dysfunctional in the sense that they are still growing and learning the ropes of the world. Unfortunately we stick our hands in too many pots and our relationships suffer for it.
I'm not trying to rest the blame solely on you, because it takes two to tango and it takes TWO people to make a relationship work or fail. Maybe you should step back or enlist an objective friend to analyze your past few relationships. What is something you consistently do? Find a pattern. Then see if this pattern is healthy. It could even be the types of guys you choose that's a problem. I know lots of guys who have gone to great lengths to make a relationship work, while their girlfriend isn't contributing a darn thing.
It comes down to this: as much as we hate to admit it, at our age we are not ready for a serious long term commitment, but yet we're programmed to believe we are. This is our time to live, to experience, to experiment. If a relationship has lots of issues to work through, it generally means it's not meant to be. You will find that special someone. It could be tomorrow. It could be five years from now. When it happens, you'll realize all the heartache was worth it!