Like it or not for her, you are a sister too, and she will just have to always accept that!
I don't think of any chapter that would just stand there and extend a bid to the first person that was just a warm body because they needed numbers.
Remember, there was a WHOLE body of membership that invited YOU into sisterhood and they are proud to have you wear the badge and letters!
Frankly, I think that the girl has a real problem if she is so insecure to be upset that you won't drink with her. What she said was really out of line and hurtful.
She does need to be talked to though and maybe I would go to your Big or another sister that you trust and get this taken care of before it causes a big stir. Most likely, if she has said something this rotten to you while drunk it isn't the first time. It's her that has the issue, hun, not you! Chin up!!
