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Originally posted by OohTeenyWahine
Before some of you decide to go CPS on me (because I know some of y'all will)...
I am a firm believer in disciplining kids, as most people are. Unfortunately there are idiots out there who don't know the difference between disciplining kids and child abuse.
I don't have any children of my own yet, but that doesn't matter. I consider my nieces and nephew my own and I've had a hand at raising them. Just from that, I know that timeouts aren't worth isht. We've tried the timeout BS, and it's only made the situations worse.
I'm a product of spankings, the belt, and the popular rubber slipper (in Hawai`i those black flip flops were more convenient than the belt). My dad hit me because I was a rotten kid and I deserved to be punished. You bet I learned my lesson. After a while he didn't have to bring out the hand, the belt, or the slipper. Once he said my name slowly, I quit being horrible and retreated to somewhere safe.
That worked for me and it's working for the next generation of kids in my family. You bet that I'll be quick to raise my hand when needed if and when my future kids act up.
Sorry if I've offended anybody, but that's how I plan to raise my kids. I don't tell you how to raise yours, so please keep insults to a bare minimum, thanks.
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My goodness...i agree with Ooh teenie wahinie 100%!
I grew up with a father and mother who believed discipline by hand was the only way to go! And we grew up well adjusted and well mannered responsible adults.
I am so fed up and sick to death with ppl today who have a fricken cow when someone disciplines their child publically.
I do not believe in hitting or anything like that because then you have crossed the line. But to take a open hand accross a butt to send a message is fine. Now you take a fist accross the face or open hand accross the face or a fist into any other part of the body ... again crosses the line.
My father and mother did instill the fear of god into us kids and by mentioning our full names we knew it was coming. If we got the name ...your next move that you make better be a good one because the next action would be after the full name a spanking and restriction.
I have a 4 1/2 yr old whom i am now raising by myself full time as his father is living back in Oklahoma and being mom and dad is hard. I had him in a wal mart cart a few weeks ago and he started acting up and i said to him in a low stern voice your lucky because mommy can't discpline you here in the store ( BECAUSE WE ALL KNOW THE CHILD PSYCHOLIGIST customers all have a cow and send out their gashtly sighs and "WELL i NEVER" remarks) told him once we get him home it is a spanking and time out ( restrction). After i said that a few customers were behind me and ready to hear some half snide remark they said "....hell no i would descipline him here screw what ppl say!" ( so chalk two votes up for motherhood done right!) I don't put up with back talk or bad manners or out of control kids......that is the problem with our world today all the ppl who sit there and make judgment on those who discpline our kids are giving those kids permission to act up because my god if we don't discpline ourkids than were going to have wild monsters on our hands.
I am very much a church person and read scripture ....my own pastor has said heck yeah you got to discpline.
Bottom line.....discipline yes ...child abuse no!