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Originally posted by Imperial11
So my questions are:
1) Am I being unrealistic?
2) Am I being selfish?
3) Is it too early to even be thinking about this type stuff?
4) How likely is it that his perspective will change?
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Here are my answers:
1) No.
2) No.
3) No.
4) Not likely.
My husband makes more than I do, so from his check we take care of the majority of the bills. I take care of the other things (food, my cell, clothes, etc.), but we don't, nor have we ever, done a 50/50 split. Your friend is right when he says that marriage is a partnership, but believe me, marriage is never 50/50 (now, this is just my humble opinion). There are gonna be times when you give more, and there will be times when he gives more (in the relationship). Anyway, somebody's gonna get tired real quickly of trying to remember who took out the garbage last and who washed dishes last, so now "it's your turn!". That mess gets old real quick. And you say he has a child. What happens if the child needs something (besides child support) and he needs to come up with funds? What happens with his "half" if for some reason he doesn't have it? Will he have to eat humble pie and tell you that he can't pay his "half" this month?
NuQueen, I've grown up much like what you've seen. My grandparents both worked outside the home, but my granddad would come home, plop the money on the table, and the rest was left up to my grandma! She'd take care of the bills, food, etc. and give him spending money. Guess it worked for them - they were married nearly 62 years.
I don't think it's necessarily too early to start thinking on these things if it seems like you're turning toward marriage. At least now you know how he thinks. And if this is gonna be an insurmountable obstacle for you, then you might wanna pull out your old bracelet!
