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Originally posted by BlueReign
Savvy Diva,
I'm with you on this....Buzz the f-- off!!
I guess why I posted this question is that I often feel like I have to apologize AFTER I had told somebody off for asking me an overly personal question in the first place.
I'm single, attractive, highly independent and often the way that the question is posed it's like "there must be something wrong with you" because you're not married.
I have been down that road before and have 3 children as a result. Now the question that usually comes is, "have you ever thought about re-marrying?" WHY? That is all the more reason for me to be even more highly selective in getting married again because I have little ones. Now it would be nice to have a hand to help in raising them but that is not the sole reason for me to re-marry. Somehow people (mostly men) find it hard to believe that I haven't met someone yet. (Well I have recently but I realize that I still should not be in no hurry).
I have to vent here because lately, I get this question almost daily believe it or not and I am sick of responding.
How bout the flip side of this. Why is it when a man is pass a certain age, attractive, educated, employed and still single it's ok? I have a co-worker who "brags" about this.
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This last paragraph comment really made me stop and think. As a single professional, attractive (so I've been told -- that ain't my holla) man, I've never been asked that. I suspect we don't get asked that because primarily we're the ones doing the initiating. It's been my experience that a sistah will let you know that your approach is welcome, but unless she's really really outgoing she's not going to initiate, thus we don't get the question you posed.
I agree that "why is a pretty woman like you, blah, blah," is lame, but it must work since so many of you seem to have heard it.
Depending on the age demographic in question, some topics of conversation may raise more ire than others. Typically, if I'm interested in someone I'll talk about some area of commonality, like the topic/setting that's allowed us to meet or something that appeals to me about what she's said or is wearing (tastefully done, of course).
...but I think this thread will be in my head for a minute
