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Originally posted by pirepresent
I see your point here, and I think it's valid. But here is my thing about adoption. I'm sure we all know people who have adopted a child before. But do you know how difficult it is for the person actually giving up the baby for adoption?
I do. And I will just say this, as someone who has seen both outcomes: in terms of the emotional consequences on the woman and her family, the differences between having an abortion and carrying your baby to term and giving it up are very very slim.
On the one hand, when given up for adoption, the mother knows the baby lived and will hopefully have a happy life. On the other hand, the mother carried the baby in her body for nine months, went through childbirth, and no matter what the consequences now wants that living, breathing child to be with her, and that baby can't. And I will also say this: many states provide a window of time where mothers who give their babies up for adoption can reclaim their child. And I also know that many mothers who can't afford to raise a child reclaim their children, because giving your baby up for adoption is so incredibly difficult.
With abortion, the mother doesn't have to suffer through that. She does suffer knowing that something that would have become a person never will.
Either way, the mother suffers, many times for the rest of her life. There is no easy solution to the problem, which is why I am 1000% pro choice. It's just not my place to say what the best decision is. I dont think it is anyone's decision but the mothers.
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i also see what you are saying, but it's also why i am 1000% pro-life. pro-life requires the mother to care more for someone she doesn't know than for herself. i was friends with a girl in college who gave her baby up for adoption.......while it was super hard for her to deal with, she had the consolation that what she did was right. she took the high road and is honestly one of the
bravest ppl i have ever known. and she wonders everyday about her child and it
is difficult to go through, but to my knowledge, she never woke up in the middle of the night crying so hard she couldn't breathe about a nightmare she had about her faceless baby. the difference btwn the pain of adoption and abortion is the knowledge that your child is out there living its life, as opposed to the knowledge that you never even gave your child a chance. call it a fetus or not, the mother who had an abortion still destroyed what would have been a baby....and unless you're just that selfish (and really, that's all it is......it's not brave or courageous or honorable to have an abortion......), you're gonna have regrets and go through complete emotional hell...there's comfort with adoption, there's not with abortion.
being pro-life is not about the mother.....it's about the child....which is what causes the issues btwn pro-lifers and pro-choicers. pro-choicers believe it's the mother's right to choose.....pro-lifers believe it's the child's right to life. to me, one is selfish, one is not. not meaning to be harsh, but sometimes that's how the truth is............and for me, this is my truth.