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Originally posted by Bama_Alumna
I was only stating the facts of what it is like here. I am not holding UA up as an ideal, but being realistic about what it is like for our actives. I have lived in a number of places all over the country, and have seen vast differences in chapters at various colleges/universities. I never said that a chapter who would accept a pregnant or married PNM was a bad chapter or that they were making the wrong decision. Just that it would not happen here!
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Frankly, it seems like Bama_Alumna is being realistic not just for rush at Alabama but with respect to most chapters.
Every chapter during rush reviews PNMs with respect to the PNM's priorities and how they may or may not affect the PNM's ability to contribute to the organization.
At a school with a competitive rush, where so many qualified women are rushing and worthy of a bid, a PNM that may have the perception of a conflict will not have as good a chance for a bid. Be the conflict athletics, theatre, academics or in "Amy's" case - a baby.
Basically, every chapter wants assurances that the PNM is committed to the group and able to contribute.
Please note that I'm not saying that Amy is not worthy or that she can not nor will not contribute. Just that she may be perceived as having issues down the line (which in this case just happen to be a baby) and that any chapter is going to consider possible issues when deciding which women of quality to cut and which to bid during rush.
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A side note with respect to the pregnancy issue.
Few chapters would want to come between a mother and her child. Most chapters would not ask or expect a pregnant PNM to put the sorority before her child.
Conversely, even if the mother was willing to do so, I would venture to guess that few chapters would want to extend a bid to a girl who would be willing to put the sorority before her child.