[Eclipse]

Originally posted by AKA2D '91
The bride's mother apologizes and says that YOUR invitation (according to ettiquete) was the same invite your parent's received. If that is the case, why did the out of town siblings receive invites? YOU do not live with your parents, you have your OWN address.

According to today's etiquette (those of you planning weddings or recently completed the process), is proper?

When I was presented the dilemma, I saw it as the person was overlooked or just not invited. This isn't one of my strong areas.

If you receive your OWN invitation to the wedding, would you attend the wedding?

Given the above scenario, how would you interpret this?

FYI Anyone can give their interpretation, but I'm interested in knowing what does current etiquette dictate (for those planning or have recently planned a wedding).

If I remember my etiquette from my wedding 8 years ago, children beyond a certain age still living in their parents house (can't remember the age, but it might be 18 ) should receive their own invitation. Adults living on their own, married or not, should certainly receive their own invitation. If children under the age where they get their own invitation are invited to the wedding their names should be listed on the inner evelope of the invitation (i.e. Mr & Mrs Smith (next line) Miss Jane Smith; Master Joseph Smith) If the name are not on the invitation they are NOT INVITED. I don't care how old you are.

I know you did not ask this, but....2 single adults living as roommates should also receive their own invitations to events such as this. And, if a single person is invited to bring a date it is proper form to get the name of the person first and address the invitation to both of them (none of this "and Guest" stuff).
If I were in this situation I would assume I was not invited to the engagement party, unless it was one of my tackier relatives and the I would assume they didn't know any better and go anyway! If I got the explaination given here I would go to the wedding with no hard feelings. Again, everyone doesn't read Miss Manners for fun.