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Originally posted by DoggyStyle82:
If everytime something goes wrong, the woman says "I don't need you, I got my own" or "I can do for my self", the man feels that this attitude is directed at diminishing his manhood. That is why many insecure Black men opt for the woman who does not have her life together
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or appears not to have her life together.
This is a very complex and sensitive issue for me and I am with you StraightBos because most men don't know what to do with me. I am a single mother of 3 and I believe I appear "needy" when they meet me and then they realize that I am not. One guy I met a few years ago literally begged me to let him buy some clothes and stuff for my kids. I had only known him like 2 weeks!! I had to show him my kids closets and let him know that they don't want for anything because I work too dam hard to provide. Nevertheless, the relationship didn't go anywhere because of this. After 4 years alone, it wasn't until 2 years ago I met someone who could accept my independence and yet he doesn't fit into the trifling abc's that Pretty Poodle described above. And I do feel you on that one Soror, those type of men are drawn to me like a magnet!