MIDWESTDIVA: are you really confused? Its non-traditional and the only real purpose that it serves is to satiate the ego of the woman. It is symptomatic of the state of gender relationships. Your name signifies that you are your own woman. A single, financially and emotionally stable, whole person, who does not need a man nor his name to validate her. That is the real ideology behind keeping ones name. When a man and woman marry, they become one entity, not two seperate whole ones thrown together. For a unified relationship to last it must be headed in the same direction and on the same page. To hyphenate your name suggests that some part of you wants to be your own person, indicating that you are empowering yourself above the goal and purpose of a union. When the unity candle is lit, what once was two becomes one, there is not a little hyphenated candle left lit in the corner. I know that hyphenated names are small and trivial, but it is symptomatic of the larger problems afflicting gender relationships. Everyone in my house will have the same name, parents, and siblings. It eliminates the confusion and energies can be combined and directed in its most powerful form: unified and with a common purpose. Sorry for invading ladies.
[This message has been edited by DoggyStyle82 (edited October 26, 2000).]
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