You are overreacting because this is something that bothers you. The people that said he was probably just being flippant or incautious about what he was saying are probably right.
Don't let your own hang-ups (an aversion to excessive drinking) lead you to prejudge others.
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Originally posted by DG515
thanks guys...it's been a lot to think about in the past 24 hours....this guy was/is one of my closest friends (at one point, would consider him one of my best friends) and i know better than to honestly expect all of the sweet little romantic details :-P Not so much solely because of consideration, but because of money....I even mentioned it just because it's just kind of irk-enducing when money's so tight, and i use that as part of the excuse as to why he won't probably do them and then he goes out and spends it on alcohol....
The main issue is the consideration and getting "tanked"....when we were together, and even until recently, he's not really ever gotten TANKED when he knew we were gonna hang out....he always held off out of respect (my dad used to drink a lot *he knows that* and he's always wanted to be sober (or mostly ;-) )around me out of respect for me and for our friendship) But it's like...on this night....all of a sudden...he seems focused on getting tanked.....I'm not gonna babysit him while he gets trashed at MY formal......i don't care if he drinks some, but that's really disrespectful to say youre gonna go and JUST get tanked....
Or maybe it's just me....
.:mandie:.
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