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Originally posted by HederaNaturale
I take personal offense to that... not because I'm a mom or plan to be any time soon, but because I'm one of the kids who *obviously* had a terrible childhood, never saw her mother and was raised so horribly because my mom was in college, making the dean's list, keeping scholarships, and RUNNING her chapter while i wasted away alone in my crib all the day long.
Clearly, you need to think before you type. I'm sorry if you feel the way you feel, but don't imply that other people can't live and achieve outside of your box.
(longwinded, but... not everybody can be on POINT like MamaNaturale is!)
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Bravo!!! You turned out very well, did you not? And you mom is better off as well.
And for the people who disagree with me... What you are doing is imposing your idea of motherhood onto someone else. The truth is we have no clue how committed a woman with a child would be to a group, since it would change from person to person. It is true, that some women with children would never work out, but I am sure there are mothers who would love to join a social sorority and would be great members, AND great mothers, and great students. I think saying "no way" off the bat to a mom or a woman who is older is the same thing as saying "no way" to someone who comes from a different ethnic background, or to someone who needs to work to pay for college. People decide to do things differently everyday, it's not our job to say what is right for whom, or if that makes them a good or bad mom.
Also, I am totally against the 80's backlash "you can't have it all..." blah blah blah. There are many things I want to do in my life, and while some compromise may be in store, I think it's shameful for us to be telling women everywhere they need to be putting certian things first. Of course, most will say that this movement only recognizes the need for careful choices, but I disagree. I disagree only because I hear everyone preaching about how they need to take care of their family. "I won't let someone else raise my children" or "You aren't a good mother if...." Honestly, I think there are MANY ways to be a good mother, and resent this popular movement because it seems to be a step backwards in the womens equality movement, which had its first generation of success with our mothers (not too long ago!). I would rather see women lobbying for greater practices of part time work, or other ways to keep careers going while fostering the other important things in life. The reason I would like to see such changes is the grim fact that most women do not stay married, and many must support themselves after they have taken time off to have children.